I'm going to resoundingly ignore the return of Downton Abbey and focus on more
important matters in the news.
I find this all a bit of a shock. First of all, when was the end of adolescence
raised to 18?
New guidance for child psychologists is recommending that
adolescence now runs until the age of 25.
Child psychologist Laverne Antrobus is quoted as saying 'The idea that
suddenly at 18 you're an adult doesn't quite ring true... My experience of
young people is that they still need quite a considerable amount of support and
help beyond that age.' She believes that
we often rush through childhood whilst being encouraged to achieve key
milestones very quickly.
The BBC reports that there are three stages of adolescence –
‘early’ adolescence from 12-14 years, ‘middle’ adolescence from 15-17 years,
and ‘late’ adolescence at 18 years and beyond.
Antrobus continues by saying 'Neuroscience has made these massive
advances where we now don't think that things just stop at a certain age, that
actually there's evidence of brain development well into the early twenties and
that actually the time at which things stop is much later than we first
thought.'
Hmmmmm. And perhaps
also ‘hrrrrrrrmmm.’ Probably with a
‘-ph’ waiting calmly in the wings.
Frank Furedi, a professor of sociology at the University of
Kent, is entirely more sound. He says
that we have 'infantilised young people'.
He's quoted as saying 'There is a loss of the aspiration for independence
and striking out on your own. When I
went to university it would have been a social death to have been seen with
your parents, whereas now it's the norm… [It’s] not that the world has become
crueller, it's just that we hold our children back from a very early age… we
don't let them out on their own… hover all over them and insulate them from
real-life experience… We treat university students the way we used to treat
school pupils.'
Well, blow me down!
Coming from a background where I was racing tractors at a
very young age (and coming out on top, too, until a very questionable ruling about the engine I was using);
and wherein your measure as a teenager was the amount of scrumpy you could
drink without falling over or losing any teeth; and wherein the idea of
courting was both of you chasing a cheese down a hill – at least until you were
old enough to know that your elders were lying about that being the most naughty thing you could do, these
new guidelines strike me as a new and rather sinister form of national
molly-coddling.
I am with this Furedi fellow. Why, my father showed me how to field-strip
and reassemble a .308 Parker-Hale when I was eight years old and then left me
to it in the barn. And even before I
could read Commando War Stories in Pictures,
let alone gralloch a stag, I was the best goat-catcher and -milker in the county.
I left home when I went to boarding school at nine, and when
I was home for the holidays, my parents made me pay rent for my room. They didn't let me forget that there was a
real world waiting out there for me.
At or around 30 years of age, my eldritch elvis
eldest daughter thinks of herself as ‘insanely’ old. Perhaps this is why she has started breeding
before settling down, and still wears t-shirts with the names of popular beat
combos on them. The other day when she
was banging on about ‘One Direction’ I got the wrong end of the stick
completely, dug out my old Silva and CCF manual, and re-taught her how to walk
on a compass-bearing.
Alistair is still living at home, admittedly, but only
because he has so much dirty laundry he can't keep it all at university for
fear it will eat him. However, once he gets
his degree (we hope and trust!) I believe he will be leaving us for pastures
cleaner, or at any rate hiring a cleaner.
As for darling Sylvie?
She is our proudest achievement in this regard. She's barely out of her 'teens' and she's
already defrauded several millionaires, been thrown in prison and escaped. She is now on the run with a much older woman
with whom she enjoys a relationship, enjoying the highlife in South America
somewhere. All of this used to upset me,
but that was before I discovered how to make my own gin.
In fact, come to think of it, the only grown-up child in
this house is my husband Henry. Poor
mite. He was very cared-for as a child,
by several nannies. Nevertheless, he is
now flourishing: with budding careers in both tweed-milling and ‘gangsta’ rap, and
a liver that just won't quit.
We don't spend a great deal of time worrying about being an
adult versus being a child. Like Popeye
the Sailor Man, we simply are who we are.
No-one puts the Airedales in a corner.
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